Youth.

I was going through my Orkut groups/communities and came across one person's moaning for a girl friend.He( hopefully so),had bemoaned the fact that he is in search of girl friends and has so far not succeeded in getting one.I am amused at this need.Why want a girl friend?Can't you speak to boy friends?I see so many youngsters sitting in parks chatting away.Of course looking at passing girls too.Though it was quite a filmy venture that song where Prabhu Deva of Tamil cinema dances singing "Urvasi,Urvasi take it easy Urvasi',does reflect the correct mood of a college youth.the song and dance was a hit because of that.

So in all these cases where a specialised need for a different sex friend is sought either by boys or girls,it is a veiled need for interaction with the opposite sex.Somewhere you want your libido satisfied?right?

Jayamala.

To Perceive Means???

I have been asking myself this question since this morning.I simply understand by this word 'perceive',to be meaning understanding simply.Yes,no complicated understanding.We humans tend to perceive everything with a little bit of complications thrown in.I feel as we grow in perception the simple should become more simple.Instead of that the simple is tending to become more complicated.

We cannot for example give more meanings to an action say exhibiting indifference or arrogance.it is just that the other person does not exactly care for you,when he shows the arrogance or indifference.It is just that.Then why does it have to hurt?Because one expects more from that person.It is also because somewhere the equation is not exactly equal.So the expectation factor comes in.You expect your friend to understand you in a certain way,but she does not.So the inequality produces the friction and imbalance in the friendship,and LO!!! one more break occurs in your life.

This factor called 'expectation' does give that imbalance be it be a familial relationship or social relationship.So what is the solution?Do not expect and do not add this expectation factor to your perception and get heart broken.

Jayamala.

Here I am ,down and out again.

Here I am ,down and out again,

Promise of a sunshine,a new day,

Where was that?Sometimes in the past?

I know I will never walk in sunshine.


There is a corner in me,

That is dark and grey,

It cannot be painted and it will be dark there.



I wear out,I get up again and again,

I seek and find different crutches,

Each one for a little while,

For they have no strength.


Do I dare?Not till I see death ,

For I like an enemy solid and unafraid

For while I am down and out ,

It need not wait to win.


Jayamala.

Here Is Something New For You.

I was thinking of continuing with my recipe for good health instead of writing about what I think alone.I have in these column on various occasions promised to write more on certain subjects but have never continued them.I think writing about cooking is the easiest way to unburden oneself.There is nothing demeaning in such write ups,for I do see recipe books sometimes when I want to cook something different.So here is one for you.

Cucumber Shake.
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Ingredients.
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1) One Cucumber- skin removed and sliced.If the seeds are very small and tender it is o.k. to have them.If not remove seeds too.Piece this cucumber.
2)Take two cups of skimmed curd.
3)Take half a piece of green chillie,a little green coriander leaves and some tender curry leaves too.
4)In mixer cum grinder add the cucumber pieces and cut the pieces and then add the rest of the ingredients and run the mixie.

You can take a siever and sieve the cucumber drink ,adding salt and if you like a little asafoedia for taste.This is a good drink,especially in summer.A piece of green ginger can also be added when running mixie,but remember to ensure that the green chillie is not too hot with the ginger piece too,making the drink quite hot in taste.

Jayamala.

How To Become A Bore.

I thought it is high time that I write about what I want,instead of trying to read other people's blogs and wonder what made them get noticed.After all the blog is a spot of writing hidden away from all because you cannot call other people names openly.

writing this I feel I have let down my hair in public so to speak.I have not expressed bitterness personal or other wise here excepting for once or twice.So I have chosen this topic just to entertain you.I give a listing about what actions you can do to become a perennial bore.

1) write blogs like this.

2)Expect other people to follow your instructions.

3)The minute some one joins you for a walk,start a topic that the other knows nothing about.Examples are talking to an unsuspecting house wife matters about the water board's mistakes.

4)Review movies.

5)Start telling the listener how to make Badham Halwa.

6)Walk faster than others .This is a sure sign to let others avoid you and also vice versa.

Jayamala.

Later......

Much later I will walk into this sunset,

This life,its tribulations,postulates....

I am sick of them.......

So this sunset looks inviting.



Ever so bright,with the palms,

Giving divine shade,my thirst subsided

I wait quenching my thirst for life.

I have no strength to walk,no crutches to hold,

No friend or philosophy,hence this unrest in me,

I walk my head held high as my self is false.


What is this self?The erstwhile agonies ask?

I shut my eyes and close this world without.

The world within yawns and I want to sleep,

Walking into a sunset that beckons me.


Jayamala.