Some Thoughts On The Girl Child.

I was listening to the various news reports on three incidents related to women ,for the past one month.They are as under.
1)The death of Rizvan whose wife is a Hindu.He was found murdered .
2)Elopement of Telugu Mega film star Chiranjeevi's daughter Sreeja,whose marriage was shown as news clippings in the T.V.News.( Various channels).
3)One girl who was working as a dress maker at Bangalore in one unit and who marked attendance by proxy for her friend was so insulted by her floor manager that she went home and hanged herself.

All the discussions centered on whether a girl child is given her rights by parents,(as in Chiranjeevi's daughter and Rizvan's wife's cases},to marry according to their choice and in the last case who was wrong,the girl who chose to hang because she thought she was shamed beyond measure or the man who insulted her in front of everyone without any exposure to human psychology?

With regard to marriage I think the problem is so deep rooted that one cannot really know what is the correct environment to be given to the girl child.The children of today are exposed to various factors and have no knowledge of what is the responsibility in married life.I have elsewhere come across a discussion where the working wife( quite educated and all that),feels that her husband exploits her for money and does not want her to share her earnings with her parents.The educated upper middle class has this problem where their only child happens to be a girl and she is earning and her husband does not want her to look after her parents.I think the problem is very old indeed.

With regard to the working girl's plight I am sure most units engaged in such mass production are being staffed by very uneducated supervisors and the women working are really in need of the work.I remember now,the plight of the Thai/Indonesian tailors reportedly working in such units in U.S. itself.

The supervisor in question has no exposure to psychological stress created due to his reaction,and he just acted as is his wont.At this juncture I suggest that these managers be given some training in handling people and issues.Also I would suggest that such units introduce midday meals for the workers too.For if not food was the requirement the girl would not have killed herself?Eating reduces stress too.Hygienic food must be given as this will be the next area where much corruption occurs in India.When feeding any segment the motto should be 'feed them,with kindness and hygiene'.

More on this topic later...

Jayamala.

Just Like Me And You.

This day just dawned bright,

Just like me and you,together.

I remember our days when you come,

I do cook specially for you.

I remember the walk we went,

In my park on that Sunday bright.

You, a youth with a cell,

Talking incessantly with a friend.

Following me walking at your own pace.

I was smiling thinking,

This my son,so grwon up and handsome.

Me with that moment poised,

When suddenl;y yopu are no more,

I recollect that day,so sweet,

Just like me and you.

The films seen and the purchases made,

For a Diwali that will never be the same again.

I feel you around,my heart ,

Torn asunder with love gone away,

Taking my life away forever.

But I will walk as that is what you will want,

As I am just like you in sturdy love.

Jayamala.