A thought on love.

I was talking to another friend yesterday in the net.He had participated in a quizz programme and had lost in the final stage after being number one till the finals,and he was upset.I was all symapthy and one topic led to another and he asked me why life should be so.


It started me thinking too.Though I had already experienced the pain that comes because of living in this world and since I have been meditating for about 13 years now, and had often thought about it,still it was not an easy answer that I could give him.Life is as my master says is "as it Is',no question why 'It is so',especially 'no answer to the question why it is so to me?'.If you think about it you know it is correct.No why's here and no why not's also here, but only just be and move onwards to the ultimate awareness which is the identity of everyone with the ultimate where all these questions and pains are irrelevant.

Irrelevance is so much a relief if you accept it.But it does take lot of effort to get into the acceptance mode.The question on life did lead to the question of love too.
Love as it is explained in the meditation and spiritual aspect of teaching is different from that experienced by the questioner.Here the questioner wants an explanation of love as he experiences it.The possessiveness of another one is not accepted as love in the spiritual sense.Whereas for the questioner the possessive aspect of love is the one that has given pain.He wants to know about his love and not universal love.

I have been thinking on this aspect of universal love and individual love.I had once asked our master too about it.In one of the writings by him he had given the answer that even a dog cannot be put out when you have given him love.So how can a human being be put out??So the answer is inferred as, if you give love at a human level too ,you will be loved.But the assuarance will that love be ever yours is unanswerable.It has no relevance in spiritual explanations of love.

But in the strange aspect of human love I have also observed that it is often found that a human being loves another one, because he or she finds something that he or she imagines the other person has.Change occurs when the person realises that he or she to whom this love was given, was not exactly so as he or she thought initially,and this is the cause of all the pain.So as in management of any business concern, the external factor spoiled the judgement.We are able to accept this error in judgement in finance, but not in life.I loved a person without knowing him, as I had given him all the attributes ,that I thought to be in him. But when I found out that he was not so, Iam hurt.In business I made a judgement error.Iam able to accept the loss. But not in love.So where are we??

I was reading today an explanation for the Dakshinamurthy stothram.There is this nothingness of all, that is called as experiences in that.I feel Shankara also felt that solid'Nothingness" which is love and life perhaps.My master is said to have observed that, Shankara too did not attain that ultimate realisation of the nothingness and perhaps because of that, the writing about nothingness of all is explained so elaborately by him.But I feel somehow that we talk about what we have not found out always.So If I talk about love it means I have not found it.